Redefining Success: Why Your Life Doesn’t Need to Look Like Theirs

What does success look like to you?

For some, it’s a six-figure salary.

For others, it’s a quiet life on a farm.

It might be traveling the world—or simply staying home and raising a child.

The truth is:

There is no one definition of success.

But a lot of us forget that.

The Turning Point: When I Realized I Was Chasing Someone Else’s Dream

When I was working as an aircraft mechanic, something hit me:

I was doing a job that made sense on paper—stable, an opportunity to live abroad, “in-demand.”

But it wasn’t me.

It was chosen for me. And no matter how “secure” the future looked…

I couldn’t see myself staying in that field long term.

So I made a decision that changed everything.

I left.

And explored what felt more aligned with my personality and strengths.

I’ve always been a communicator. I enjoy talking to people, listening, helping.

So I pivoted to sales—first in real estate.

Then, after having my first child, I decided to go remote to be a more present husband and father.

Now, I work from home, in a sales role that fits me.

I’m able to earn, enjoy, and show up for my family daily.

And that’s what success looks like to me now.

The Real Problem: We Use Someone Else’s Scorecard

A lot of people feel “behind” not because they’re doing poorly—

but because they’re comparing themselves to a definition that doesn’t even fit them.

We see:

• Batchmates working abroad

• Peers with condos or cars

• Friends posting about luxury trips

And we wonder:

“Am I failing?”

“Shouldn’t I want that too?”

But the deeper question is:

Do you actually want that life?

Or have you just never defined your own?

What Success Looks Like to Me (Today)

• Spending most of my time with my family

• Providing for them comfortably

• Traveling from time to time

• Eating out with my family (a small joy we really enjoy)

• Having peace of mind that we’re prepared for emergencies

• Investing for our future—slowly but consistently

It’s not flashy.

But it’s ours.

And that’s enough.

What Helped Me Redefine My Path

Here’s what helped me:

🧠 Reflection Time – Quiet moments to ask myself what I really wanted

📚 Books & Podcasts – Different perspectives helped me zoom out

⏳ Youth + Privilege – I had time, fewer responsibilities, and the freedom to pivot

💬 Permission to Choose Differently – I stopped asking for approval and started listening inward

And I realized:

Sometimes, the answer isn’t “out there.”

Sometimes, it’s been inside you the whole time.

3 Questions to Redefine Your Version of Success

1. What do I want more of in my life?

   Time? Energy? Travel? Peace? Progress?

2. If no one judged me, what kind of life would I build?

   Be honest.

3. What makes me feel rich—not just financially, but emotionally?

Let these guide your choices.

Want Help Defining Your Path?

🎁 I’m putting together a free reflection worksheet to help you:

• Define your “Rich Life”

• Separate internal desires from external noise

• Realign your goals based on what truly matters

📩 Coming soon—stay tuned.

Closing Thoughts

There’s no shame in living a simple, grounded life.

There’s also no shame in wanting more—if it’s your version of more.

What matters is that it comes from you.

So don’t rush to keep up.

Slow down to realign.

The real prize isn’t applause—it’s alignment.

📅 Want to talk through your goals and build a system that supports your version of success?

Book a free 30-min call here → calendly.com/mr-ricyu/30min

Your life, your rules.

See you in the next issue,

—Ric